Even though you may love your partner with all your heart, you may secretly want to suffocate them with their own pillow when the lights go down and their sleeping style interferes with your rest. They may feel the same way about you, too, and you don’t even realize it.
We’ll help you pinpoint what kind of sleeper your partner is and figure out some workable solutions so you can both have sweet dreams about each other.
The Full-On Bed Hog
Is your partner fond of spreading out and taking up as much room as humanly possible while they sleep? Do you find yourself waking up in the middle of the night clinging to the edge of the bed, ready to get a bad wake-up call from the floor if you lose your balance? If so, you sleep with a bed hog.
While it might be semi-bearable now, if you get pets or have children who like to occasionally sleep in your bed with you, you might wind up completely resenting how much space your partner is taking up.
The best solution for you is to upgrade your bed size. It’s not worth taking the time and energy to continually nudge your spouse in the middle of the night in a futile attempt to move over. If you have a queen bed, it might be time to consider upgrading to a king, so you’ll both have room to comfortably spread out.
The Deafening Snorer
Nothing can ruin a great night of sleep quite like constantly being jarred awake by a snorer. It’s hard to fathom that much noise being generated by one person.
The effects of snoring can be chronic for both of you -- and it’s a never-ending cycle. The snoring wakes you up, and then you wake the snorer up by shaking them or making them roll onto their side. You’ll both be exhausted every morning by following that routine.
Your first stop to fix this problem should be a doctor’s office. They can evaluate whether the snoring is caused by sleep apnea, which can be a serious medical condition. If it is, a sleep apnea machine can be a lifesaver. You’ll hear the occasional whooshing noise from the air movement, but that’s much better than sleeping next to what sounds like a chainsaw.
The Hyper-Alert Sleeper
Some people are deep sleepers, but on the other end of the spectrum are the light sleepers. They seem to wake up at a moment’s notice because of normal traffic sounds, a creaky board, the wind blowing against the window, or any other slight noise or movement.
That’s not a bad type of sleeper to be in case of emergencies. But, chances are, when a light sleeper wakes up, they might also accidentally wake up their partner.
One good solution is to use a white noise machine, such as a fan, to mask those light noises that jar them awake. If your partner wakes up frequently in the night to investigate strange noises or use the bathroom often, you might want to invest in a light-blocking eye mask. That way, if they are turning on the lights throughout the night, you can still sleep soundly.
If you’re cuddled up to a hot sleeper at night, you’ll know it. Touching them can get insanely hot, to the point where you start sweating in your sleep just because you’re by them. Or you reach over to slide an arm around them, only to find that their clothes and the sheets are drenched in sweat. That’s a terrible wake-up call to put yourself through.
The way to peacefully co-sleep with hot sleepers is keeping the room as cool as possible by keeping windows open when you can, using a fan or air conditioning, and using cooling fabric, such as eucalyptus weighted blankets or cooling sheets.
Having a big bed can also help you cope with a sweaty sleeper. The more space there is between you, the less you’ll feel their heat or sweaty sheets.
Blanket bandits can rip the blankets off of you suddenly or slowly pull them until you’re left freezing. You’ll eventually wake up from the cold and pull them back to your side. From there, the blanket wars continue, with both of you feeling sure you’re being cheated by a partner who is hoarding the majority of the cover.
You can tackle this issue one of two ways:
- Buy a bigger blanket: If you have a queen bed, you can opt for a king-sized comforter. That will ensure that there’s enough blanket for both of you.
- Get two blankets: That gives you one blanket for each of you. The only bad thing about this is it can put a damper on your cuddling since you won’t be under one blanket together.
The Constant Position Changer
Those who suffer from aches and pains while they’re sleeping may find the best way to alleviate it is to switch positions constantly. But that means you’re probably going to wake up your partner -- perhaps several times a night -- with all the flip-flopping around.
If your partner is having the same issue as you, then they’ll be changing positions throughout the night, too. That spells bad news in the sleep department.
If you have to frequently change positions to get comfortable, a new mattress might be your best bet. Your current mattress might be too hard, or if you have a traditional mattress, you might be better served by switching to a memory foam mattress.
What’s the solution if both of you are position changers? You might want to consider buying an adjustable mattress -- one that has dual controls, letting you each select the level of firmness that works best for you. If you’re comfortable, you won’t be moving around as much, annoying each other.
Don’t Dwell On It -- Work Toward a Solution
Sleep issues shouldn’t drive two compatible partners apart. By looking at the problem and trying to find solutions to the issues, you’ll both be getting better sleep in no time. And that can help you enjoy many more years of happiness and health.